Location: San Luis Obispo 

ALL the pictures to come! We have the rest of our year to put up--thanks for joining in on the fun. We did it, finished 364 days of wedding pictures.  

A new day--and we are celebrating! We are so excited that we have walked through an amazing year together and we would be lying if we didn't share our exuberance over NOT having to take our picture of the day today.  We woke up on a 151 acre ranch surrounded by classic signature-gold California mountains-- Travis started writing a beautiful song on a dreamy porch and I started our new year reading Psalms.  

The celebration continued--driving through the San Luis Obispo wine country, buying a 45 pound pound pumpkin, drinking iced coffee, eating a gourmet cheeseburger and walking around the quaint surfer style streets of SLO. 

I think it is safe to say that we love each other more than we did on our wedding day. Each day is like turning a new page in each others story---celebration all the way through. 

 
 

Location: Santa Cruz, CA

Man of the house! You better believe we are counting down the days until our first anniversary--two weeks from today we are married one year! Any suggestions for our last picture of the year?

 
 

It was nice to go out to eat after a long day at work. We walked out onto the pier in Santa Cruz and found a little sea food diner.

 
 

Location: Santa Cruz, CA

We just finished playing UNO and are enjoying our last couple of weekend hours. Time off has so much more weight now! The best part of today was eating the fresh baked cinnamon rolls that Travis made---so yummy!

 
 

This is our first day off in over two weeks and it was gloriously lazy! We drank espresso, walked to the boardwalk to meet friends and watched netflix for pretty much the rest of the day. The cloudy skies with scattered rain showers chased any feelings of guilt away and we relished the day of rest.

Every human being needs days of rest--cherish them, guard them, cancel plans for them, teach your children about them and don't let busy lives make a slave of you.

 
 

Worst quality picture ever but here is to another day married! Notice Travis holding the wand he carved this weekend to use for directing the band at the school. I married a renaissance man.

This week brought in a tide of contemplation about relationships. This is a short summary of all of my thoughts this week: how you learn to resolve conflict and disappointment will determine the health of your life. Today I am considering this the number one life skill that needs to be attained and taught--dealing with conflict! Forget algebra we need lots and lots of tools for dealing with hurt, betrayal, disappointment, offense, injustice, anger and abuse! These are the events that derail lives and the opportunities to run into them are plenty each week! We need to learn how to talk instead of blame, to communicate in a healthy way and to fight our own toxic patterns. We need to become experts at forgiveness.

For once and for all while I'm on my soap box-- Love IS NOT a feeling. Feelings are meant to be followers not leaders. You choose out of love-- you do not fall out! Love is when you have no warm affectionate feelings bubbling inside for someone and you ask--what does it look like to choose love right now? There is such a beautiful power to love someone in moments when it is not benefitting you. Today I asked God to make mlove big giant lover!

For those that are followers of Jesus, is there ever an excuse not to love? When we have a leader who said things like, "love your enemies" and "pray for people who curse you". Was he speaking of a feeling when he referenced this word love? Absolutely not, he was talking about the love that goes beyond affection, friendship and romance-- the bold love we are called to give away. To have mercy, forgiveness and care for people who's actions don't deserve it. This is the love that was lived out for us when Jesus chose to die for us--when we were the betrayers, the offenders, the liars. Have you ever felt the love of God pouring into your heart and literally changing you? It is crazy love!

He doesn't want us to get along-- he wants us to have such transformational love that even the most undeserving can taste and see that HE is good but we need lots of love practice because the older you get-- the more hurt you get! When you are hurt, you have two choices-- you either harden yourself in some way to cope through it or you have to allow yourself to go through some pain, forgiveness and grieving to prevent your heart from calcifying. Some comfort in those painful moments? The words of a masterful lover, "My grace is sufficient for you and my power is made perfect in weakness". Choose love!

 
 

Location: Home Sweet Home

This picture sums up exactly how we feel about taking our photo of the day tonight-- not feeling much about it! A wise mentor once told me, "Feelings are meant to be followers not leaders". Don't give feelings very much power over your life and especially over you decision to love people when it is hard or unglamorous or unromantic.

 
 
Location: Santa Cruz, CA 

There is only one place I want to be at the end of the day, in your embrace. 
 
 
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Location: Santa Cruz, CA

Do yourself a favor and make a chore list. 

 
 
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Location: Santa Cruz, CA

A kiss is an easy way to end the day.